Tuesday, February 16, 2016
Wednesday, February 10, 2016
Its Alright to Leave
There are so many red flags,
yellow flags and things people try to ignore when dating or in a relationship;
if you need a list of why you should leave a relationship look at the list
below.
1.
Needs are not being met (this list is different
for every person i.e. mentally, physically or financially)
2.
You have been cheated on or manipulated or
violated
3.
You have given years’ and excessive time and he
has not married you
4.
You are a secret you have not met his mom,
family, friends, or children
5.
He calls after 11 pm and you don’t go on any
dates, dinner, no courting you, just for sex
6.
He doesn’t Love God and you don’t have the same
moral values
7.
Not respectful of you they are verbally or
physically abusive, profanities, nasty, mean
8.
You have nothing in common (food, hobbies,
friends, likes, events)
9.
He doesn’t like your Children or Family (and
they not crazy children or family)
10.
They drink excessively (alcoholic or too much
for you)
11.
They do drugs of any kind street or prescription
12.
They are broke, no job, no car and they are not
trying to get any of those listed. (You should have left that alone from the beginning)
13.
They are a user, a leach, a predator
14.
They don’t know your worth
15.
They are not supportive.
This list is not exhaustive but
hopefully will give you courage on making the right decision. You have to know
what you will and will not put up with.
Michelle A. Roberts, M.A., Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Author of Dr. Shell’s 100 Tips on dating http://bit.ly/drshells100tips
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Wednesday, December 16, 2015
Friday, November 20, 2015
The "One"
This is a letter I wrote to myself
as I wait for the “One”, I wrote this for comfort and strength and I often find
comfort in reading this as I wait on the journey and path of the “one” finding me. I pray it will bless you
to.
What I look forward to in my next
marriage/long term relationship is number one that it will last until God calls
us home. I know I am well built for a lasting, loving relationship because I
was married before for 18 years so sticking and staying is not an issue. I know
also I am worthy of mind blowing love, honesty, integrity, security and trustworthiness
I am worthy of having a monogamous relationship I am worthy of having someone
who does not want to share me or be shared, we can truly be one.
Someone I can be raw and honest
with and who will love me with or without my lashes or my make up on or off.
The one you can be real with and they accept you flaws and all. The “One” will
be sent from God and fashioned and designed for me and me for him. The “One” is
preparing for me as I am in preparation for him. I am busy with my life, I am
getting out of debt, working on my temple, eating right and staying healthy. I
am chasing my dreams and visions that have been set before me to achieve.
I am a woman of prayer and purpose
so that The “One” will find me working and busy in the gates. I am gleaning in
the field like a beautiful carefully crafted diamond. I am sparkling now
because in preparation for the “One” I went through lots of heart ache and
pressure on the way to him finding me. I went through the pressures of bad
choices in relationships because of not having patience for the “One”. The
pressures of raising 3 children as a single mom, the process of self-love and self-discovery,
the process of re building and being recreated and fashioned just for the “one”
I remind myself when I begin to get anxious and question the wait, and the why’s
that sometimes enter my mind. I cast them down as I think of the “one”, God has
designed and set aside for me the “One” specially
crafted and made for his favor. I can’t
get weary or dreary for the day will be soon as the “One” is on a mission to
find me as God prepares him for his “One” J
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Monday, October 5, 2015
So he doesn’t want you…… Pick up your P.E.A.R.L.S .
I just got off the phone with a client who was crying and I
was listening and all she kept saying is he don’t want me. He doesn’t want me!
I listened and listened, I got teary eyed too. But then I had to help my
sister.
So he doesn’t want
you…… First let me acknowledge that yes it is a bad feeling and it can make you
question your self-worth, your mental clarity and your spiritual walk. I
believe at least once if not more you will experience this when you are dating
and even when you have been in a committed relationship or one you thought
commitment was supposed to be there. Honestly it’s just not a good feeling.
But girl let me tell
you ….. Pick up your P.E.A.R.L.S and move forward. It was probably a good thing. (I know you
making a face) But trust me and read on. J
Pick up Peace of mind you were probably trying
very hard and trying more than they were.
Let’s face it after you cry and reflect, there is nothing like Peace of
mind.
Next put your Emotions in check, “weeping endures one
night but joy comes in the morning” (Okay it may take you a week but do it), calm
yourself, exercise, and breath, scream if you need too!
Take Action, get involved in other
activities, call your family or your girlfriends that you may have been
ignoring when you were caught up, stay busy and if you are brave start dating
again. Call that 2nd string,
you know the one who said if he ever lets you go I will be there. (Be careful
now, if you are one that can’t handle something new that quickly.)
Have a Reality check; examine the good, the bad,
the ugly and what you want in your next relationship and the things you will
improve upon and the things you will not put up with.
Love yourself like never before, get a
massage, have a spa day, get your make up done, Change your hair, go to the movies or a play by yourself (love
you and be okay even when you are alone) .
And finally be Strong you can and will live through
this experience, you will grow, you will love again and you will be position
with your P.E.A.R.L.S. Peace, Emotions , Action, Reality, Love and Strength.
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
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Wednesday, September 30, 2015
What Makes You Feel Loved?
What
things that others do for you make you feel loved? Do you like to have people
give you special gifts, or to send you cards and messages that assure you that
you are loved and appreciated. Maybe you are the type of person who appreciates
a hug as a way of feeling loved, or really enjoy spending time with your spouse
or best friend.
The
way we give love to others is often indicative of the way we want to be loved
ourselves. . Most couples enjoy expressing their love to each other. However,
many of us have yet to learn a golden lesson. We all give and receive love
every day. Often what makes us feel loved is different to the way others give
and receive it. Learning what makes our spouse or children feel loved can be
the key to making even great relationships even better.
We
all enjoy being told we are loved, but for some people, the spoken word is not
enough. Telling your spouse or child you love them but never following it up
with the things that make them feel loved can create feelings of confusion and
concern in even the best of relationships.
Keep
a record of what you do for others to show them your love and note the
reactions you receive to those actions. As you observe the significant people
in your life and their responses to the different ways, you express love to
them; you will soon see how they best “hear” you.
If
your wife sees help around the house as evidence of how much you love her, each
time you help her you confirm to her you love her. In just one action, you will
speak louder to her about your love than if you verbally assure her of your
love every day. If your husband wants your physical touch, giving it to him
will assure him you love him, more than any number of meals you may cook for
him.
Learning
to recognize the things that make us feel loved and then identifying what the
significant people in our lives need to feel loved is a beautiful self-growth
adventure that will revolutionize our relationship. It takes little time and
effort to learn how to do this, yet as we learn and use this simple technique,
our significant relationships can be transformed.
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
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