Wednesday, December 16, 2015
Friday, November 20, 2015
The "One"
This is a letter I wrote to myself
as I wait for the “One”, I wrote this for comfort and strength and I often find
comfort in reading this as I wait on the journey and path of the “one” finding me. I pray it will bless you
to.
What I look forward to in my next
marriage/long term relationship is number one that it will last until God calls
us home. I know I am well built for a lasting, loving relationship because I
was married before for 18 years so sticking and staying is not an issue. I know
also I am worthy of mind blowing love, honesty, integrity, security and trustworthiness
I am worthy of having a monogamous relationship I am worthy of having someone
who does not want to share me or be shared, we can truly be one.
Someone I can be raw and honest
with and who will love me with or without my lashes or my make up on or off.
The one you can be real with and they accept you flaws and all. The “One” will
be sent from God and fashioned and designed for me and me for him. The “One” is
preparing for me as I am in preparation for him. I am busy with my life, I am
getting out of debt, working on my temple, eating right and staying healthy. I
am chasing my dreams and visions that have been set before me to achieve.
I am a woman of prayer and purpose
so that The “One” will find me working and busy in the gates. I am gleaning in
the field like a beautiful carefully crafted diamond. I am sparkling now
because in preparation for the “One” I went through lots of heart ache and
pressure on the way to him finding me. I went through the pressures of bad
choices in relationships because of not having patience for the “One”. The
pressures of raising 3 children as a single mom, the process of self-love and self-discovery,
the process of re building and being recreated and fashioned just for the “one”
I remind myself when I begin to get anxious and question the wait, and the why’s
that sometimes enter my mind. I cast them down as I think of the “one”, God has
designed and set aside for me the “One” specially
crafted and made for his favor. I can’t
get weary or dreary for the day will be soon as the “One” is on a mission to
find me as God prepares him for his “One” J
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Monday, October 5, 2015
So he doesn’t want you…… Pick up your P.E.A.R.L.S .
I just got off the phone with a client who was crying and I
was listening and all she kept saying is he don’t want me. He doesn’t want me!
I listened and listened, I got teary eyed too. But then I had to help my
sister.
So he doesn’t want
you…… First let me acknowledge that yes it is a bad feeling and it can make you
question your self-worth, your mental clarity and your spiritual walk. I
believe at least once if not more you will experience this when you are dating
and even when you have been in a committed relationship or one you thought
commitment was supposed to be there. Honestly it’s just not a good feeling.
But girl let me tell
you ….. Pick up your P.E.A.R.L.S and move forward. It was probably a good thing. (I know you
making a face) But trust me and read on. J
Pick up Peace of mind you were probably trying
very hard and trying more than they were.
Let’s face it after you cry and reflect, there is nothing like Peace of
mind.
Next put your Emotions in check, “weeping endures one
night but joy comes in the morning” (Okay it may take you a week but do it), calm
yourself, exercise, and breath, scream if you need too!
Take Action, get involved in other
activities, call your family or your girlfriends that you may have been
ignoring when you were caught up, stay busy and if you are brave start dating
again. Call that 2nd string,
you know the one who said if he ever lets you go I will be there. (Be careful
now, if you are one that can’t handle something new that quickly.)
Have a Reality check; examine the good, the bad,
the ugly and what you want in your next relationship and the things you will
improve upon and the things you will not put up with.
Love yourself like never before, get a
massage, have a spa day, get your make up done, Change your hair, go to the movies or a play by yourself (love
you and be okay even when you are alone) .
And finally be Strong you can and will live through
this experience, you will grow, you will love again and you will be position
with your P.E.A.R.L.S. Peace, Emotions , Action, Reality, Love and Strength.
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Contact: Michelle A. Roberts 404-935-8113
Social Media
Follow on Periscope @ marobertsinc
Wednesday, September 30, 2015
What Makes You Feel Loved?
What
things that others do for you make you feel loved? Do you like to have people
give you special gifts, or to send you cards and messages that assure you that
you are loved and appreciated. Maybe you are the type of person who appreciates
a hug as a way of feeling loved, or really enjoy spending time with your spouse
or best friend.
The
way we give love to others is often indicative of the way we want to be loved
ourselves. . Most couples enjoy expressing their love to each other. However,
many of us have yet to learn a golden lesson. We all give and receive love
every day. Often what makes us feel loved is different to the way others give
and receive it. Learning what makes our spouse or children feel loved can be
the key to making even great relationships even better.
We
all enjoy being told we are loved, but for some people, the spoken word is not
enough. Telling your spouse or child you love them but never following it up
with the things that make them feel loved can create feelings of confusion and
concern in even the best of relationships.
Keep
a record of what you do for others to show them your love and note the
reactions you receive to those actions. As you observe the significant people
in your life and their responses to the different ways, you express love to
them; you will soon see how they best “hear” you.
If
your wife sees help around the house as evidence of how much you love her, each
time you help her you confirm to her you love her. In just one action, you will
speak louder to her about your love than if you verbally assure her of your
love every day. If your husband wants your physical touch, giving it to him
will assure him you love him, more than any number of meals you may cook for
him.
Learning
to recognize the things that make us feel loved and then identifying what the
significant people in our lives need to feel loved is a beautiful self-growth
adventure that will revolutionize our relationship. It takes little time and
effort to learn how to do this, yet as we learn and use this simple technique,
our significant relationships can be transformed.
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Tuesday, September 29, 2015
C.H.O.I.C.E.S
Changing Habits Outlasting Impossibilities
Creating Establishing Success
At the end of the day it’s all
about choices, it’s easy to blame someone for the failed relationship, the time
you were played for a fool, the bad financial choices etc. There are a list of
choices we make every day that impact our now
and our future. I am not just telling
you this from what I heard but from several bad choices, failures and poor
decision making. I could write a list
from A to Z or even 1 to 100. But I won’t bore you with the dreary details.
What I will do is encourage you to move on and do better. It’s all about a made
up mind and deciding I will change and I will do better. This could be a short
process for some and a longer process for others depending on what poor choice
you made. One process that I am involved in currently is cleaning up my credit,
it went bad from poor choices I made and the impact of a bad marriage where we
made joint decisions on credit things and once the marriage was dissolved there
was a lingering effect. Therefore it will be a process that won’t happen overnight
but little by little it is improving monthly and I see a Great, High credit
score/fico score in my future. I am not only speaking it I am accommodating my
faith with action of paying off things, writing the credit bureaus and getting
things removed as well as, I am getting
help from experts in the field of credit repair/restoration.
I decided to stop rehearsing the
bad relationships and move forward there are great men/women out there looking for
other great men/women to move forward with and have a productive, loving,
caring and respectful relationship. I decided to get myself together, spiritually,
emotionally, financially and socially so that when that great man finds me I am the great woman he has been waiting,
praying and seeking for.
I decided that my dreams are not
big enough and I need to dream bigger, bolder and outlandish dreams (to some)
and to take the steps necessary to reach them. I now surround myself with big
dreamers, bold movers and shakers that challenge me to move and to stop
complaining. To plain out my destiny and to have a Blue print for my next 30 days, 90 days, 1 year, 5 years and 10 years. I also had to
leave some people behind who are not currently ready for the next level or that
were just dead weight. I love them, respect them and care for them, I just
realized for my next level my circle must change and I have to change it. I realize I must have: C.H.O.I.C.E.S Changing Habits Outlasting Impossibilities Creating
Establishing Success, I encourage you today to exam your situation and make the
choice as well.
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts,
M.A., Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
www.michellearoberts.com
Wednesday, September 23, 2015
I said YES
Wow I am breathing hard, my
excitement is overwhelming, I didn’t think this day would ever come .
I contemplated the day, the time
and the year. I imagined in my mind how I would respond, I even dreamed of this
day. Well it happened finally after days, months, years of praying, my day came
and I said YES!!
You may ask wow what did you say
yes to? I said yes to me, yes to my dreams,
my visions, my destiny and my purpose. I have been ignoring that inner call,
that inner knowing and actually running away from it. But when Destiny calls you have to answer.
Destiny follows you daily, it whispers in your dreams, you hear it when you
hear a song; people even tell you they see it.
I can’t ignore Purpose, Destiny or
my calling anymore. Myles Munroe says, “You
must decide if you are going to rob the world or bless it with the rich,
valuable, potent, untapped resources locked away within.” He also states “The
greatest tragedy in life is not death, but a life without purpose”
Do you ever feel like Giving up? Everyone has felt
this way at some point or another, why because life has a way of knocking the
wind out of you. Everyone’s path is different. What effects one
person may not bother the other one in the same way; Strength in different
situations comes in different doses. But hold on to the fact that
Destiny is calling you and you must be prepared to answer and be in position to
collide with it. You know the word proclaims He has predestined and
preplanned the good life for us.
The Good life to me is having millions and time freedom and
health and sound mind to enjoy it all , The Good life to you may be to have a
Fabulous marriage or Awesome Entrepreneurial success. It’s your
vision and your dream. Life is about choice...that's why God made us
FREE moral agents. You can choose to be happy, choose to be healthy, and choose
to be wealthy. Living the GOOD Life and having SUCCESS is a choice, not a
chance.
So Destiny is calling our name. We just need to be in position
and Answer! I said YES!
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Contact: Michelle A. Roberts 404-935-8113
Social Media
Periscope: marobertsinc
Tuesday, September 22, 2015
When They Tell you they love you ……..
The magic words most ladies want to
hear, I love you, you know I love you, and Girl I love you. Well those words
may land in your heart or in your stomach depending upon who is saying this and
where the relationship has gone are is going. I recall hearing I love you from my now ex-husband as he would leave to go to the Crack house, I
would hear I love you as I had to hide my keys in my shoe boxes because I knew
he would not look there and if he got the keys I would not be able to get to
work.
I heard I love you when I went to the mail box and saw a letter from
the courts saying he needed to pay child support for the first child he had
while we was married. And yes I said the first child there were more L
. I heard I love you as I would remind
him if he loved us (our 3 kids and I) he would stop doing those things that
made us sad, worried and disappointed.
So l had to start asking him are
you really in love? , because love should not treat you like this the Bible
says that love is patient and love is kind, therefore no you don’t love this
Girl/Woman, Daughter, Wife, and Mother.
I knew with all that is in me, that
I was in Love with me and because I love me, I had to leave the person who said
they loved me for over 18 years of marriage and begin the healing and loving
myself process. I had to love my 3 beautiful children enough to remove them
from an unhealthy and dysfunctional situation. I remember asking myself, what are
you showing/ teaching your daughters.
What are you teaching your son? I know that children look at what you do
not just what you say. They were my why for improving our situation.
I am sharing this so you can love
yourself enough to leave, start over or move on if you experience abuse,
emotional or physical. You may be
reading this and thinking wow it is easier said than done. And I will agree it
took me years to leave, I lacked confidence, self-esteem and the belief that I could
make it. I had to reach out for help from, family, friends and clergy. I
prayed, I cried and I used positive self-talk through affirmations to give me
the strength, courage and stamina to make it happen. It was not easy but so necessary
to heal and move forward. I adopted a
new Love code and I share it with you below.
L.O.V.E can mean Loving Over Various Errors or
Living Over Victoriously Every day, I chose the latter and I am taking my
Pearls back J
This article is compliments of Michelle A. Roberts, M.A.,
Author, Speaker, and Entrepreneur
Contact:
Michelle A. Roberts 404-935-8113
Social Media
Periscope: marobertsinc
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